So next time something challenging comes your way, take a moment to breath and refrain from labeling it good or bad. Proceed to re-frame it in a more neutral light with the expression - We'll see...
This is best illustrated with the following Zen story of the farmer and his horse:
The story takes place in Japan in an era when a horse was a measure of wealth.
A farmer acquired his very first horse and all the local villagers came by to congratulate him.
"How proud you must be to own such a valuable horse." they all said.
The farmer smiled and said, "We'll see."
Soon afterward, the horse broke out of the paddock and ran into the countryside.
"What a terrible tragedy! What a great loss! How is it possible to recover such a thing?", the villagers lamented.
The farmer simply smiled and said, "We'll see."
Less than a week passed, and the farmer woke to find that the horse had returned accompanied by two wild horses. With the greatest of ease, he led them into the paddock and closed the gate.
"What amazing fortune! Who could of believed it was possible?", the villagers shouted.
The farmer's only response was, "We'll see."
The farmer's son worked on breaking in the horses. During one session he was thrown from the horse and broke his leg. This happened shortly before harvest when the farmer was in need of his son's help with the crops.
"What a great misfortune losing your son's help at this time!", the villagers sympathized.
"We'll see." was all the farmer said.
A few days later the Imperial Army sent troops to every village collected able-bodied young men as recruits. The Emperor had decided to go to war. The farmer's son with his broken leg, was excused from service.
And so the story goes on....
Isn't it so much better to avoid the melodrama of a situation, the labels of good or bad and just simply do what is required in the moment and chant "We'll see." Life is a roller coaster but it is always moving forward. Even in the seemingly worst circumstances, there are always fresh opportunities. You can choose to ride life's roller coaster holding on tight with fear and drama or choose to raise your hands in the air and go with the flow.
I prefer the adventure of "We'll see.".